Conscious Parenting

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In a bizarre case of parenting gone wrong, a Japanese couple left their child in the forest as punishment for the child’s transgressions. What happens next should not come as any surprise; the child went missing and the Army’s help had to be taken to rescue the child. Disciplining is about teaching the child to do the right thing. This cannot be forced upon the little ones by punishments. Punishments are nothing but shortcuts to achieve the goal of teaching a child something; to teach a child, a lot of encouragement and patience is required. Children are like sponge. They absorb everything around them. And if they are continually subjected to punishments, they are bound to have a lot of negativity in them.  

Everyone has the notion that they will be or are excellent parents as most of us love our children to the core. But love is not enough. Being a good parent requires hard work and ingenuity just what being good at one’s job requires. Parenting is in fact tougher than a job as one has the option of quitting from your office but you cannot quit on being a parent. There are numerous things that moms and dads do wrong on a daily basis. Essentially, negative thoughts and feelings need to be avoided at all times.

For example one should not overreact if a child makes a mistake. To err is human and is an important step in the learning curve especially for a child. An undue amount of scolding will discourage him/her to try out new things in the future. Instead of stopping the children in their tracks parents should try to nudge them on the right track. Conscious efforts by parents to shape their children’s character are important. Some of the things that parents should always keep in mind are:

1. Unconscious parenting methods have to give way to conscious procedures. All of us have biases which are formed due to the experiences we undergo and we tend to enforce it on our children knowingly or unknowingly. Thus while we may believe that what we are doing is for the betterment of our children, it may not be beneficial for the child in reality.
2. Nurture individualism. Although this advice is stressed upon time and again, very few parents seem to heed to it. Every child is unique and focusing on their strengths and developing them helps not only in creating confidence but also enforces a special bond of trust between the parents and the child. Many studies reveal that children whose parents regularly compare them to others have markedly lower self-esteem. The biggest asset that a person can have is self-confidence and parents play no small part in developing this in their children.
3. Nobody is born a good parent but one can surely get better at it. Anything done for the first time will obviously have some shortcomings and hence it is important not to presume that everything that you think will be absolutely beneficial for your child and that there is no way around it. The first day of your child as a teenager is also your first day as the parents of a teenager. You are as new to the experience as is your child.

Parenting is a skill. Just like a potter makes the perfect pot by applying the right pressures at the right areas while allowing the clay to rotate freely, parenting too requires showing your kids the right direction at the right time without compromising on their freedom or self-confidence. And just like pottery not everyone is born good at it but gets better with experience, patience and hard-work. We provide you with tools to sharpen this skill. We have identified the areas where children are most likely to stray away from an acceptable behavior and coach you on how to solve these problems.

For example, you might sometimes wonder as to why your child has bad habits like lying or disrespecting their elders in spite of you never teaching them such things. We provide you the answer to such problems, approaches on how to solve them and also advise you on practices so as to prevent any such derogatory habit from taking root in your child. Children are the greatest source of joy for any parent. Do not compromise in investing your love and care on them.

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