We all want to have perfect relationships, but what does that entail? In the midst of a demanding schedule, how do we make time for the people we love? And most importantly, how do we show them that they are valued and treasured above all else.
Here are my top tips for having healthy vibrant relationships. In No particular Order:
💓Take a trip down memory lane–
What were the things that you did for your partner when you first met them? Most likely you went out of your way to make them feel special. It might be a good idea to start doing those same things again. Who knows, you just might be pleasantly surprised.
💖Know your partner like No One else–
Their quirks, their innermost desires, their wildest dreams. That will give you an edge and cement your position as an expert. Your partner will value this highly. I promise
💗Go the Extra Mile–
At the end of a long tiring day, instead of asking, “How was your day?” Take it one step further. Suggest an impromptu dinner date, or a drive. Make arrangements for a movie night if you have a sneaking suspicion that your partner would be ecstatic about it. Sometimes small gestures mean the World.
💝Do Not Assume–
Its quite easy to assume the worst if we find our partners hesitant to engage in conversations as they normally used to or they might be overtly critical for minor things. Rather than jumping to conclusions and accusing them, it’s always a safer bet to take a step back and let them be. Most often, such situations resolve themselves without any interference. However, if they don’t, you might consider engaging in a conversation that gives them a chance to share their feelings without fear of judgement. As they say, “Effective Communication is the key to almost all of life’s problems.”
💟Do not ignore Intimacy–
Too often the priorities of day to day life take precedence over the matters of the bedroom. This is akin to inviting disaster with open arms and hoping you would remain unscathed. Couples who prioritize their sex life not only live healthier lives but they also end up having a great marriage. Its quite easy to co-exist with one another, but to retain the glow and passion specially if you have been living together for years? That’s another level altogether.
💌Choose to Truly Listen–
What is it that their partner is not expressing? Are they facing a silent battle? Couples who maintain external appearances and choose not to listen to their partners often pay a very heavy price. Some couples separate because one individual in this equation feels left out, devalued and unheard. It’s always a great idea to prioritize “Date nights”. Couples can plan a romantic getaway, a coffee date or anything that makes the both of them happy. Free from external distractions and deadlines, they can focus on each other and their aspirations for the future. I cannot emphasize how critically important this is.
Be intentionally kind. Sometimes, people are used to presenting a perfect picture for the world to see. You might never know how close that individual with the perfect life is to a mental breakdown. Be kind to your partner. Always.
can be done in a number of ways. Sometimes it implies giving your partner space. At other times it might mean having a period of zero conversation which might give the both of you ample time to think things through. Figure out what works best for you and your partner. Couples who have mastered effective conflict resolution have in essence crossed a gigantic roadblock.
❣ Invest and Invest–
You simply can’t expect your relationship to yield great returns if you haven’t invested in it. All relationships need to be nurtured and cared for. This is a very intentional endeavor and there are absolutely no shortcuts here.
💘Have a Vision for the Future–
All Successful marriages and relationships have this trait in common. There is an alignment not only in terms of shared interests but rather a common vision for the future. This is the driving force and makes sharing your life with someone meaningful and an adventure.
A Great Relationship is not formed overnight.
A true relationship is when two imperfect people refuse to give up on each other and constantly strive to make their relationship the best it can be.
Now you are armed with a Comprehensive Guide for how to have Great Relationships!
Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified Trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder approved New Code NLP and NLP Master Practitioner Certifications Courses in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). Apart from the Trainings, he covers a wide niche of coaching including Relationship Coaching, Parenting Coaching, Leadership Coaching.
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