The Confidence Matrix

“To be yourself in a World that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson quoted this centuries earlier, and yet this statement has the same potent appeal it had years earlier.

Confidence is not an option anymore. It’s a necessity and non negotiable. Cultivated meticulously, it has the potential to make an individual unstoppable. Confidence is that rugged fierce characteristic that says,”Either I will find a way or make one.”

Neuro Linguistic Programming has a couple of confidence building techniques that definitely make the journey towards self-esteem easier.

The NLP Whiteout Technique as the name suggests is really equivalent to a whiteout. The purpose is to eliminate all sorts of negative experiences or memories that barge into a person’s consciousness and prevent peak performance. Its programming your brain to think of the negative memory in all its intensity and then radically think of something else. Repeated rigorously, the result is equivalent to a wipe out of the negative trail of emotions.

The NLP Anchoring Technique is a living a memory of resourcefulness and wiring the neurology to that state by some sort of kinesthetic stimulus. Anchoring is a fundamental technique used in NLP using different input channels. You can get anchored to some event in the past where you had high Confidence state. The same technique can be utilized to collapse any negative anchor or memories that trigger low confidence.

The NLP Fast Phobia Technique is truly top-notch. I am surprised more people haven’t tried it. For example, if an individual is afraid of flying and absolutely dreads setting foot on an aircraft, and the memory itself is enough to drive him berserk. Self beliefs strengthen existing fears and phobias. We evaluate experiences and life events through the filter of our beliefs and experience. A Phobia is an irrational fear. The Phobia Cure detaches the dreadful images which twined with extreme emotions in such a way that memory exists but without triggering any emotions.

Content Re-Framing is another powerful tool which enables an individual to perceive a situation in the best possible light. As discussed earlier, preconceived ideas and beliefs play a huge role in assessing a potential situation.

The Dissociation Technique is practiced by psychologists and healthcare professionals worldwide in order to help an individual recover from a traumatic situation. The individual takes on the role of an impartial observer and processes the emotions. It doesn’t have to happen all at once, or it has the danger of overwhelming an individual so much so that, he would never venture into this territory again. Gradually, one begins to assess the entire gamut of emotions and with the help of a competent healthcare professional is able to replace the negativity and fear with acceptance and growth.

NLP techniques work best when the ground rules are firmly established. Its extremely important to have the right mindset that allows for new models to take root in an individual’s psyche.

The confidence that is easily shaken doesn’t have any lasting value in the world we live in. The power to drive change is the ultimate objective but getting there isn’t easy. It requires some “soul searching”, so to speak and to possess an intellect that is ready to be challenged.

Lets face it. When we talk about global sustainability models, we are looking for mechanisms that will last. The point that I intend to drive home is that, quite possibly, we restrict confidence in a narrow bracket that can be gained through the reading of some self- help books. That works but its definitely more potent when combined with the Powerful NLP techniques as discussed above.

“Believe in Yourself. Have faith in your abilities. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful and happy.”

And a reasonable confidence is the byproduct of the entire kaleidoscope of events that have shaped you. And Besides, its not average, mediocre confidence we are talking about. “Today I will do what others won’t. So tomorrow I can do what others can’t!” That’s the Confidence Matrix.

Sajid Ahamed is “Certified Trainer of NLP” and Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt Ltd, India. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. He is ITA (International Training Academy) approved NLP and New Code Trainer in India and Middle East. Certified in Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner by one of the largest ICF-accredited coach training schools in the world, “Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching” (iPEC), Coach Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their greatest potential and evolve into their personal best version.

Watch this testimonial on fast phobia cure –

https://youtu.be/p0ueRkEPdSE

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IPLC Team