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Why you shouldn’t stress?

Simple Habits that will help you overcome stress

Stress is a psychological process resulting from demands on an individual’s coping resources. Understanding your stress triggers can help you learn when to rest and take care of yourself. A Stress profile is an inventory of behaviors and experiences that helps the user understand how they react to stress.

Download the Personal Stress Profile Here

The purpose of the Personal Stress Profile tool is to help you better understand your network of stress triggers, symptoms, and coping mechanisms. Building this awareness will enable you to manage stress more effectively.

Sometimes relaxing can be the most productive thing you can do. Seems like a challenge, what with the times we live in. Time seems to be in short supply, no matter how hard you try to delegate or multitask. Suppose the ordinary man is hard-pressed for time. In that case, one can only imagine how the CEO must be grappling with running a company. Everyone has the same 24 hours and it’s a race to the finish. No wonder stress, anxiety, anti-social behavior, and conflicts have risen.

Until Elon Musk figures out an alternative Universe, we have only this planet to rely on. Without wasting a second, let’s look at practical ways you can minimize the impact that a high-pressure environment can create:

  1. Make Self Care an Absolute Priority This is number one on the list. You must be conscientious when it comes to self-care. Or else burnout is guaranteed.
  2. Practice being calm during the day It could be Centering exercise or taking a short walk. Whatever works for you. Please resist the urge to finish it all at once. You will be prone to make other mistakes if your mind is not rested enough.
  3. Take Time Off Frequently Overworking is not a badge of honor. It’s stupidity at its best and can have disastrous repercussions. The World is not resting on your shoulders.
  4. Make Journaling a Habit Writing helps the brain assimilate information faster. Not only will you accomplish tasks as per the deadline, but it will also give you the satisfaction of a well-done job.
  5. Choose tasks in Order of Priority What is most urgent and needs your immediate attention. Focus on priority tasks and then gradually come down the list. That will free your brain from needless anxiety. (Read my blog on Eight Powerful Ways to Set Priorities in Life)
  6. Sleep Enough Getting a good night’s rest gives you the stamina to face the day. Your mind is alert and active and you can accomplish tasks quickly. It also repairs your health when you get a night’s sleep. So next time you are tempted to sacrifice sleep, think twice.
  7. Get Enough Supplements Eat a balanced meal packed with vitamins and minerals. More often than not, we forget to adhere to the basics and end up in more significant trouble than could have been avoided.
  8. Power of Outdoors Nature is a great stress booster. It can give you a burst of creativity and remember that last time you had a fresh breeze that uplifted your spirits. There are plenty of adventure sports you can try if you feel inclined.

The above list is by no means exhaustive. There are plenty of other strategies you can follow to combat stress. Often times it’s not the load but the way we carry it that causes needless stress and anxiety. There is no way to avoid stress, but plenty of ways to mitigate it; instead, use it purposefully.

The way a person perceives stress is what makes it harmful; stress itself is not always a “bad thing.” When stress is perceived as being out of one’s control, its negative effects can be more crippling. However, overcoming a stressful challenge can spark your growth process and make you feel more competent and confident the next time.

So, the next time you are prompted to wallow in self-pity or anxiety, think again!

If you operate on time-tested principles (a few Outlined Above), you are essentially reducing the adverse impact of levels to a bare minimum. Repeat a thing often enough, and the brain’s neural pathways are strengthened, so much so that you start operating on autopilot. Focus on strengthening good habits and they will serve you well in times to come.

Essentially, life is simple. But we insist on making it complicated. I hope this short series has sparked your curiosity and charged you enough to reset your life. It’s all about small habits that you develop to cope with your situations that make you successful.

Download the Personal Stress Profile Here

The purpose of the Personal Stress Profile tool is to help you better understand your network of stress triggers, symptoms, and coping mechanisms. Building this awareness will enable you to manage stress more effectively.

 

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified Trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder approved NLP training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code NLP and NLP Master Practitioner Certifications in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, International. He is a firm believer in High Performance Coaching. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

Listed among the best NLP Trainers in India, Coach Sajid is known for his Accredited NLP Certification, especially the  NLP Training In Bangalore and Parenting Workshop In India. Apart from the Trainings, his NLP Coaching In India covers a  wide niche of coaching including Relationship Coaching, Parenting Coaching, Leadership Coaching.

One of his personal favorites seems to be How To Get Rid Of Phobias and How To Manage Your Emotions.

He has completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology and is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EI and Energy coaching.

To be updated with latest trends in Coaching and psychotherapy, join our Facebook Private group – https://www.facebook.com/groups/findinnerpeace

For Further networking, follow us on

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Healthy Relationship

How to experience greater joy and fulfillment from your relationship

Do healthy, perfect relationships spring out of nowhere? Is it as triumphant and perfect as social media presents to us? If you are reading this right now, chances are that you are intentionally seeking to take your relationship to the next level and are prepared to redouble your efforts. If this sounds like you, keep reading.  

Why do you think we have Relationships?

Being in a relationship allows you to discover new aspects of yourself that you might not have been aware of. An accountability partner watches over you and ensures that you consistently achieve your objectives. Love teaches you to appreciate the little things in life and makes you live more intensely. Your outlook on life can be improved by the presence of someone you love, which may enhance your life’s meaning.  

As an EQ Coach, I would summarize the purpose of relationships is to magnify human emotion and experience.

Knowing your destination is a good idea before starting any journey. Understanding where you are is the first step in developing the ideal relationship. Everyone occupies one of six relationship positions.

  1. A magnificent relationship with love and passion. – A relationship with fun, spontaneity, intimacy, excitement, passion, closeness, and devotion
  2. A relationship with love but no passion. – A relationship that is more of a friendship.
  3. A relationship with love and passion. – A Relationship where each partner lives together yet is separated in their own world.
  4. You are planning your escape. – A relationship where there is no love, friendship, or romance and a forced to live together due to external factors
  5. You are looking for a new relationship after a breakup. – Never had a committed relationship but believe that a relationship can make you complete.
  6. You don’t want to be in any relationship. – You have generalized that relationships don’t work, and you are better without them.

With our Relationship Coaching Program you can work on your beliefs, generalizations, emotions, and fears, shift to any of the six positions and taste one of life’s most incredible emotional experiences!

How to grow and develop your relationship to continue experiencing greater joy, love, fulfillment, and passion.

Here are a few suggestions that may help you to achieve this end:-

Know your Partner like No one Does What makes them happy? What is their pet peeve? What makes them come alive? Chances are that the more you know them, the better you will understand what governs their actions. And they will sense that you are taking a keen interest in them, making them view you differently.

Make relationship a priority We are all operating on busy timelines. Life has become frantic and everyone is rushing to meet the next deadline. It is pretty easy to put one’s relationship on the back burner. It’s no surprise then that millions of families are on the brink of divorce. Can it be Avoided? Absolutely. But one must be ruthlessly intentional about family times and date nights. And let me reiterate this. It is not an Option. It’s an absolute priority.

Rekindle intimacy We reclaim the spirit of play, presence, and passion that resides within each person. Open the range of experiences in sexual intimacy to include not only the emotions of loyalty, contribution, and devotion but also the emotions of naughtiness, possessiveness, and lust. Play fearlessly, tenderly, intensely, and wildly. Why not take advantage of the benefits of your relationship if there is genuine understanding, selflessness, and trust between you? Open, try new things, be adventurous, and have fun! Your relationship will flourish when you create this level of heart-to-heart communication and fun.

Be an Expert in Conflict resolution Fights and disagreements are inevitable. Different individuals might have different mechanisms when it comes to conflict. This is where knowing your partner can come in handy. You know how much time they might need to cool down and come around. Couples who learned conflict resolution have undoubtedly mastered the most challenging subject.

Don’t keep a Record of Wrongs It’s tempting to bring up past mistakes and wrongdoings and it can only backfire if said at the wrong time and with malicious intent. It can cause irreparable damage and tear relationships apart. 

Go beyond the Ordinary During Conversations, it’s easy to focus on the basics. Even though everything is taken care of, remember people must be heard. And they must feel comfortable asking and sharing. It is usually those conversations that tend to be therapeutic and strangely uplifting. If your partner has been distant lately, having a long, drawn-out conversation might be a good idea. Sometimes, we just don’t realize that communication is the answer.

Take Mini Vacations People usually have grandiose ideas of going on the perfect vacation. Well, perfect doesn’t exist. Taking impromptu breaks can not only boost your mood, but it can also be a game-changer for the relationship. Millions of marriages have been saved when people have been given the opportunity to rediscover each other, minus the innumerable distractions that life presents.

Rediscover your Partner AgainYears of living together renders people insensitive to each other’s needs. What was exciting once and filled one’s soul with happiness seems like a burden and a disappointment. Nothing can snuff out a relationship like taking a person for granted. Therefore, it is so vital to rekindle the romance in a relationship.

Seek to Grow as an IndividualInvest in your growth. Relentlessly seek opportunities that develop your skills and talents. I think this is something that we routinely miss out on. Two people cannot establish something worthwhile if either one is grappling with past trauma or unresolved emotions. I cannot emphasize this enough. A relationship by no means completes an individual. It is supposed to enhance them. Make them better versions of themselves.

No Quick FixesA relationship requires an investment of time, effort and genuine commitment. Anything less and it will end by default. The absence of issues does not make relationships great. They work because both parties care about each other enough to try to make it work.

I remember reading this somewhere and it encompasses everything in a single powerful statement, “Do what you did while starting a relationship and there won’t be an end.”

But without a doubt, working on yourself first is the secret to developing and experiencing a remarkable, fulfilling relationship.

 

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified Trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder approved NLP training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code NLP and NLP Master Practitioner Certifications in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, International. He is a firm believer in High Performance Coaching. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

Listed among the best NLP Trainers in India, Coach Sajid is known for his Accredited NLP Certification, especially the  NLP Training In Bangalore and Parenting Workshop In India. Apart from the Trainings, his NLP Coaching In India covers a  wide niche of coaching including Relationship Coaching, Parenting Coaching, Leadership Coaching.

One of his personal favorites seems to be How To Get Rid Of Phobias and How To Manage Your Emotions.

He has completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology and is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EI and Energy coaching.

To be updated with latest trends in Coaching and psychotherapy, join our Facebook Private group – https://www.facebook.com/groups/findinnerpeace

For Further networking, follow us on

https://www.facebook.com/innerpeacelife/

https://www.instagram.com/innerpeacelifecoaching

https://youtube.com/c/InnerPeaceLifeCoaching

Ten Strategies to Increase EQ

Ten Strategies to Increase EQ

I had a client few months ago, who was totally demotivated and frustrated the way her boss criticized her, though she puts in a lot of efforts to get the work done. I did an EQ assessment and found her biggest challenge was recognizing her emotions and handling them in a way that can be fruitful to her rather than allowing the emotions to highjack her thinking and control her behaviors. This is what EQ deals with.

Emotional Intelligence is defined as the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. In the list of highly sought-after qualities, emotional intelligence ranks on the top.

An Individual might possess all the characteristics necessary for career success but if he/ she lacks emotional intelligence, everything goes for a toss. Simply speaking, it is the ability to make strategic decisions at strategic junctures in life that may later on prove to be simply a stroke of genius.

Employees who have great emotional intelligence not only withstand the opposition. They conquer it.

Let’s dive in and look at some of the strategies you can implement, starting today.

Look for another Perspective – When dealing with a high-pressure situation, an individual’s first response is being defensive. It’s quite tempting to believe that someone is out to exact a vendetta or perhaps they are doing it deliberately. It takes an emotionally mature individual to get to the root cause without sounding condescending or rude. In doing so, they have inadvertently depicted confidence and calm. A lethal combination.

Be optimistic – Being positive or positive thinking is not always beneficial, especially when positive thinking is used to avoid or control negative experiences. Instead learning to respond to a challenge can be a better strategy and that is Optimism. Stay Consistent. Be in the game. You will get your due when the time is right. But it all starts with a Optimistic mindset.

Learn to handle Critiques – Anyone can blush with pride when they have been praised, but it takes an emotionally smart individual to remain calm when triggered. People have lost great opportunities not because they lacked merit or competence. It was simply because they couldn’t take feedback.

You cannot not communicate – Your facial expressions, your tone, your gestures all communicate, even if you are silent or in a pause. In a volatile environment, it not only matters what you say, rather how you say it. The tone you use, the language, the underlying meaning behind your statements are all being recorded and observed. How you communicate during a high-pressure situation speaks volumes about your character. And by the way, this is the Number one trait necessary for leadership positions.

Know What Triggers you– So Crucial to be self-aware. Most people are painfully unaware about their triggers. The result can sometimes prove to be disastrous. Know what your “unique triggers are” and fix it in the way that suits you. Some people go for a long walk while others might decide to catch up with friends. Bottomline- “Fix it before it becomes an emergency”

Practice Empathy – Practicing empathy is about understanding and connecting emotionally. Its how to recognize and respond to someone. It is very different from Sympathy. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable on some level and realize people feelings are not dangerous, you will develop profound respect and even love for others. Bridge with them in the most difficult situation becomes easier. Everyone is fighting a battle. Never assume something based on the spur of the moment. Resolve to understand first and then connect

Be Assertive This is huge. Stating your intention in a firm, assertive manner is an art. Once you master this skill, you will literally be unstoppable. That doesn’t imply being domineering. There is a fine line between arrogance and tact. Highly intuitive individuals have honed these skills to precision levels

Focus on Whys’ rather than How’s – Most individuals are stuck in the How than Why. How can this be achieved. How can I make it work. How predominantly connects your resources and pathway to your goals. Its more conscious functionality and has a linear approach. But Why triggers your motivation to achieve your goal and operates at an unconscious level. It works nonlinearly and in multiple simultaneous directions. Operate from a place of power by choosing your response based on the purpose and intention. A Strong WHY and a strategic response is in essence, setting you up for future success.

Let Conflict not Stop you– Agree to disagree must be the principle you live by. Remember, you are not proving who is superior. Everyone has the right to share their views. How you end a conflict is again an art that must be mastered if you are focusing on long term gains. Anyone can operate at peak performance for a short stint. The goal is consistent huge wins over the long haul.

Aristotle coined these words a century ago but they capture the essence brilliantly. There is a very thin line between astute EQ and stupidity.

Practiced accurately it has the potential to yield unprecedented dividends!

 

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified Trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder approved NLP training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code NLP and NLP Master Practitioner Certifications in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, International. He is a firm believer in High Performance Coaching. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

Listed among the best NLP Trainers in India, Coach Sajid is known for his Accredited NLP Certification, especially the  NLP Training In Bangalore and Parenting Workshop In India. Apart from the Trainings, his NLP Coaching In India covers a  wide niche of coaching including Relationship Coaching, Parenting Coaching, Leadership Coaching.

One of his personal favorites seems to be How To Get Rid Of Phobias and How To Manage Your Emotions.

He has completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology and is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EI and Energy coaching.

To be updated with latest trends in Coaching and psychotherapy, join our Facebook Private group – https://www.facebook.com/groups/findinnerpeace

For Further networking, follow us on

https://www.facebook.com/innerpeacelife/

https://www.instagram.com/innerpeacelifecoaching

https://youtube.com/c/InnerPeaceLifeCoaching

There is no failure, just feedback

There is No Failure- Just Feedback

Since time immemorial, we have perceived failure as an intrinsically bad event and one that should be avoided at all costs. Failure is simply a judgment about results that are not yet accomplished and cannot necessarily be termed bad. In a society governed by success and accomplishments principles, failure can be viewed as an outlier, an unnecessary roadblock. So, what exactly is the role of failure and is it a mandatory step towards Success?

But, before we dive into that concept, let me ask you, “Do you honestly believe you are worthy of success? Do you think you have what it takes to be considered as “having made it in life”? Or would you consider yourself as far below the spectrum of achievement? Why is this important, you may very well ask? So here’s my take on this, Your perception of your current state and your belief in your ability is the single most crucial factor that can alter the trajectory of your life.

You may have had your fair share of failures. Some avoidable, some silly, and some entirely a matter of chance. But it’s not the failure itself, is it? If you sincerely believe you are worthy of Success, you have to ask the Right Questions. The Right Questions will open doors to Success.

These Self Coaching questions will help you upgrade your mindset and accept all life challenges as opportunities for growth.

Question #1: “What could I have done differently? The ability to take feedback. And that perspective is the starting point that will prove invaluable in your journey toward Success. Every time you encounter a delay or a setback, you must alter course and think outside the box. You can pivot and strategize as many times as you want to. This must be your watchword until you reach the pinnacle of Success.

Question #2: How much do you believe in your Success? Have you been ridiculed for failing at it in your first attempt? Congratulations. Now you are experiencing the first symptoms of defeat and disillusionment coupled with people doubting your ability to come through. This is possibly the most challenging phase and most individuals flee after the first bout of failure.

Question #3: Let’s say you cross over despite the opposition. You have failed and yet managed to ride the wave. How I need to speak to myself must be the focal point from now on. If you talk defeat, you will encounter defeat. If you manifest failure, you will receive nothing but disappointments. How you speak to yourself during a testing time can either make or break you. Are you speaking victory?

Question #4:. How badly do you want it? An individual with a red-hot burning desire will always defeat the best of the best at doing the how. Your desire to accomplish your dream must supersede your desire for comfort; it must be unfazed by the opposition and challenged by defeat.

Question #5. What is stopping you from achieving your goals? Are you experiencing feelings of being adrift and undecided? Is it a lack of resources? Whatever the root cause, I would like you to do a deep dive and think of all the ways you can stop yourself from achieving your goals. Think about it often. Think about it Every day.

Let me be extremely honest with you. The road to Success is littered with failures. And you must have a heart of steel to withstand multiple losses without losing your sense of drive and adventure. In fact, you must expect failures as a necessary component of Success. You cannot genuinely enjoy real Success until you have gone through bitter defeats and detours.

In the Far east, a tree is known as the Chinese Bamboo. For the first four years, the Chinese Bamboo hardly grows. No visible sign of growth. Nada. However, year five is the Game changer. Within five weeks, the humble Bamboo grows to ninety feet, leaving all its competitors far behind. Sometimes you might think you have been hidden. The reality is that you have been planted.

The Most Important Question –  Have I failed, really? Well, that depends on your perspective. What you considered a failure was telling you about another way that would not be successful, so change your strategy, look for something different and something that will work better. As said by Edison, “Now you know 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

Now you know your limitations and how you can position yourself for the future. Now YOU can sustain the pace in the long run because you failed. You see, failure can also teach you. It is all a matter of PERSPECTIVE.

Fail Early. Failures are nothing but stepping stones to Success!

There is no Failure; its only feedback to change to another strategy

 

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified Trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder approved NLP training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code NLP and NLP Master Practitioner Certifications in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, International. He is a firm believer in High Performance Coaching. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

Listed among the best NLP Trainers in India, Coach Sajid is known for his Accredited NLP Certification, especially the  NLP Training In Bangalore and Parenting Workshop In India. Apart from the Trainings, his NLP Coaching In India covers a  wide niche of coaching including Relationship Coaching, Parenting Coaching, Leadership Coaching.

One of his personal favorites seems to be How To Get Rid Of Phobias and How To Manage Your Emotions.

He has completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology and is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EI and Energy coaching.

To be updated with latest trends in Coaching and psychotherapy, join our Facebook Private group – https://www.facebook.com/groups/findinnerpeace

For Further networking, follow us on

https://www.facebook.com/innerpeacelife/

https://www.instagram.com/innerpeacelifecoaching

https://youtube.com/c/InnerPeaceLifeCoaching