Coaching – The Game Changer

Coaching – The Game Changer

Attaining excellence is not an option. It’s a necessity. It’s a ruthless never-ending struggle to reach the top. The intensity and all-consuming demands for perfection demand a reckless drive, an almost maniacal obsession to perfect one’s craft. And while it’s quite possible that an individual is equipped with all the necessary attributes to make it big in life, it doesn’t necessarily imply that there can be no further improvement. The danger of complacency is an ever-present reality that can suck an individual’s potential and can deaden the senses. And almost imperceptibly, the individual loses himself in that mechanical pursuit of tasks that have no real meaning. And all too often, the ability to make a switch seems like a gigantic proposition. What starts as a small trickle becomes a rushing waterfall, fierce and magnetic.

The vast majority of people are losing themselves in being busy, without being productive and accomplishing anything of real and lasting importance. That’s the real danger, and it surprisingly goes unnoticed. And that brings us to the essential question, “Why is achieving excellence important? The truth is, the road to victory is often strewn with roadblocks real or imagined, and most people would rather settle for comfortable. And a comfortable existence is a dangerous one, as it offers no real solace or lasting value. Inevitably, the demands of life can be a very heavy sentence and we all are aware of the term “burnout”, which is a direct result of lost time and failed dreams.

Coaching plays a huge role in directing an individual towards fulfillment and ultimately towards greater productivity. The results personally and professionally are unparalleled. I personally have been remarkably blessed with mentors who have played an invaluable role in helping me see reason. Yes, even that sometimes! But on a serious note,

Coaching requires an open perspective, a bird’s eye view of the individual’s psyche. Coaching mechanisms can’t be replicated as no two individuals are the same, with completely different personalities and interests. Also, it’s important to consider a very important principle. Coaching is not a road to fame or a “feel good factor”.

Why is Coaching a Game Changer?

Simply put, life doesn’t offer second chances and therefore it stands to reason, that an individual can’t live to see defeat multiple times. It can lead to depression, to say the least!! But let’s be honest here. The objective is to lead an exemplary life, a life that is rich with promise and potential, and we all need a mentor that can lead us there. Individuals who make it on their own are a rarity. Truth is, no one can make it alone, even the so-called self-made individuals. The catch here is, the right feedback at the right time conveyed in the right manner that miraculously works like a charm. Coaching is vastly different from other therapies, and it can be argued that it’s by far the best strategy for personal growth.

The reason is surprisingly simple “the personal touch”, that connectedness and shared bond that forms an almost tangible sense of self-belief and self-worth.

Sometimes feelings of self-worth are buried under years of abuse and neglect, almost eroding an individual’s sense of discovery and dreams. Coaching lays bare the essentials, with powerful questions that demand a deeper introspection. The path to growth is adventurous! It demands sheer grit and courage in the face of relentless opposition. The notion that coaching is a tool that can lead to reformed individuals is not an overnight phenomenon. There are no quick fixes, and there shouldn’t be either. They lead to shaky foundations that topple at the slightest push. Coaching mechanisms are a complex labyrinth of procedures that demand answers that last. The results are not instantaneous but when an individual exhibits courage and categorical decision-making skills that are undeniably the tools that we need in the real world, we realize that Coaching has been the game changer.

Millions of people all over the world are realizing the incredible benefits of coaching. Maybe it’s time, YOU connect to that too!!!!!!

Sajid Ahamed, is Grinder approved NLP Trainer in India and Middle East. He has been running NLP Practitioner Courses in India and Middle East. He has been coaching Clients for effective parenting skills and Enhancing Emotional intelligence. You can book a free session with him using the below link.


The Confidence Connection

The Confidence Connection

Aristotle once said “Anyone can become angry-that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way, this is not easy.

Emotional intelligence is the trademark characteristic that separates the exceptionally brilliant from the mediocre. These individuals are star performers who have a distinctive appeal. It is defined as “the capacity to be aware of, control and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.” In a rapidly changing world, the adaptability factor is a key driver for great performance.

Brain profile assessments are a great way to figure out one’s unique combination, so to speak, which will subsequently aid an individual to make informed and categorical choices. The SEI Brain Brief Profile provides a snapshot of your brain’s current style for processing emotional and cognitive data.

In a sense we have two minds and two different kinds of intelligence; rational and emotional. A person’s IQ might be exceptional, but its emotional intelligence that plays a pivotal role in his continued success.

The single most important contribution education can make to a child’s development is to help him towards a field where his talents best suit him, where he will be satisfied and competent. We have completely lost sight of that.” His influential book, “Frames of Mind” is a masterpiece that refutes the notion that an individual who is born with an exceptional IQ is automatically destined for success while those with a substandard intelligence can resign themselves to a life of mediocrity.

Despite making rapid strides in every field, unfortunately, as a society, we haven’t yet addressed the importance of teaching children the importance of conflict resolution and expressing emotions unreservedly. Emotional competency is not a byproduct of a brain profile assessment, though they play a huge role in assessing an individual’s strengths and weaknesses. The unlimited potential that emotional intelligence offers is staggering and they must be taught and modeled for children. If not now, then when? This is a global crisis with a reach that extends beyond the borders of race and economic status. In the desperate struggle for economic prosperity, an entire generation of children are growing up starved and desperately deficient in emotional strengths. Social isolation, aggression, and difficulties in concentration are just the tip of the iceberg with a world of problems that spiral out of control in adulthood.

Emotional competencies developed during childhood play a very significant role in shaping an individual’s ability to handle failure. Parents who regularly coach their children and provide feedback consistently during the formative years undeniably lay the groundwork whose ripple effects are immeasurable.

The Journey towards emotional literacy is fraught with a host of factors that can’t be quantified. Brain profile assessments undoubtedly offer a window of opportunity into the inner workings of the mind. But, emotional intelligence is a byproduct of a child’s formative years and the complex set of life events coupled with a timely intervention that plays a definitive role in the outcome. There are always exceptions to the rule. To say that we need emotionally intelligent people in positions of power would be an understatement.

Emotional competency is built during periods of intense stress.

Brains may come in handy, but as a predictor of long term success, emotional intelligence undoubtedly grabs center stage.

For more details on Brain Profile assessment, please visit the below link.

Sajid Ahamed is a certified Brain Profile assessor from Six Seconds. He is also a Grinder approved NLP Trainer in India and the Middle East. He has been running NLP Practitioner Courses in India and the Middle East. He has been coaching Clients for effective parenting skills and Enhancing Emotional intelligence. You can book a free session with him using the below link.


The Paradox of Stammering/Stuttering

The Paradox of Stammering/Stuttering

James Earl Jones once remarked, “One of the hardest things in life is having words in your heart that you can’t utter.”

“Stammering is a condition characterized by stoppages and disruptions in fluency which interrupt smooth flow and timing of speech. These stoppages may take the form of repetitions of sounds, syllables or words, or of prolongations of sounds so that words seem to be stretched out, and can involve silent blocking of the airflow of speech when no sound is heard.” ( Enderby, 1996)

Individuals suffering from this disability (Stuttering) know precisely what they want to say but are unable to articulate it. Stuttering and stammering are synonymous.

Stammering could easily become a persistent problem without timely intervention, and we shall look into some of these preventive mechanisms to combat stammering. There are a couple of practices that can reduce it to a manageable level. Talking slowly can help control the stutter. Reaching out to a supportive network and practicing speech therapy all have a positive impact. In addition to this, practicing breathing exercises infinitely increases the chances of a more fluent conversation. But, and it’s a resounding but, it’s important to address the importance of building up robust self-esteem. As mentioned earlier, there is no known cure for stammering. In a society that is obsessed with perfection, life can be unbearably brutal for a person with a disability. It’s highly unconventional to meet a person who is suffering from a disability and yet radiate a certain level of confidence. That’s an oxymoron. Yet, that’s precisely the objective of this article.

Let me illustrate. Nick Vujicic, the author of “Life without Limits” was born without arms and legs. He is the founder of the nonprofit organization, “Life without limbs”. A surfer, writer, motivational speaker, and a globe trotter, Nick didn’t have it easy. He participates in almost all of the activities that normal people do. Yes, the usage of the word “normal” was deliberate as this society is quick to demarcate individuals in categories that are safe and accepted.

Emily Blunt, Tiger Woods and Julia Roberts all have something in common. They all suffered a debilitating speech disorder and despite the insurmountable difficulties achieved a level of success almost incomprehensible. During the course of my research on critical illnesses and their preventive mechanisms, a critical and often overlooked fact is the resilience of the human spirit, which has a definitive role in the ultimate outcome.

A person who exhibits confidence whilst suffering from a speech disorder is a paradox. But, it’s not uncommon. And in the pursuit of an egalitarian society, an unreserved acceptance must be practiced. This point is eloquently expressed by

During a recent session with one of my clients for Stammering / Stuttering, I first identified the desired state he wants to be in and also the present state. All behavior including stuttering is state dependent. That’s why you would find some people stammer more under stress and fear than other situations. Working at an unconscious level reorganizes the input data and recreates the map the person is living in. As John Grinder Co-Creator of NLP puts it,” You see the world through your map of the world”, which might be limited due to filters installed from previous experience or exposures. As a Coach, my role is to help the client’s unconscious mind to see other choices which are hidden.

In short, experience creates a memory and creates a pattern of response. When you live this experience over and over again, this pattern transforms into habits including Phobias.

Some of the NLP Techniques like Swish Pattern with a lot of stacking of anchors for confidence, positivity, and focus can be very helpful for scores of other behaviors that are undesirable like Stuttering, Nail-biting, snoozing, etc.

Sajid Ahamed is Grinder approved NLP Trainer in India and the Middle East. He has been running NLP Practitioner Courses in India and the Middle East. He has been coaching Clients for effective parenting skills and Enhancing Emotional intelligence. You can book a free session with him using the below link.

The Confidence Paradigm

The Confidence Paradigm

Mark Twain once remarked, “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” According to popular consensus, either one is equipped with confidence or it’s a struggle to master the craft. Brian Tracy, the author of many self-help books argues that one might have intrinsic abilities, but what separates the truly successful from average performers is the ability to constantly upgrade their craft and I couldn’t agree more with him on this.

In an era distinguished with speed and the constant battle to stay on top of the game requires confidence. The astute observation of a popular comedian drives home this point, quite often overlooked, “If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?” Confidence is the trait or quality that can unlock one’s potential and open up a whole vista of possibilities. Dalai Lama’s take on confidence is the cornerstone and quite succinctly embodies a world of meaning, “With the realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s own ability, one can build a better world.”

All too often, we are consumed with thoughts of uncertainty and fear, which may be unfounded. Science has proved that most of our assumptions are baseless. And then, of course, it’s a battle with one’s own inner critic. All of these thought processes have unimaginable repercussions and has the power to stunt an individual’s growth. In my quest to know more about this principle, I went through tons of articles and observed people in various settings and the results were striking. But first, let’s address one key principle and an absolutely undeniable fact. We are extremely concerned about people’s opinions, whether correct or incorrect and that creates the bedrock for most of our actions. Mandy Hale remarks, “Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful and magical person that you are.” But, that’s precisely the problem. Most people would rather present a perfect picture and gain instant approval. Eventually, that leads to discord as one is unable to live up to the lofty expectations that were established in the first place.

Confidence, the real deal comes across as authentic and is backed up by solid self-esteem which is self-governed and is hardly bothered by critics, real or imagined. It is characterized by a disarming and humble demeanor. Yes, you heard that right. Strength cloaked in humility. It’s the ability to lay one’s cards on the table and say, “Sorry, could you teach me how that’s done?’ Those are the kind of people who have built empires and billion dollar corporations. Confidence comes not from always being right, but from not fearing to be wrong.

Now that we have established a few key principles, let’s dive deeper into the elements of confidence.

I don’t know – That seems utterly ridiculous, and can spark gossip and verbal humiliation. But, it can also lead to rich dividends. The truly confident individual is a lifelong learner and can handle criticism with grace. Over a period of time, the same individual has learned the rules of the game and is on the path to super growth.

Know who you are- Of Course, you may counter, “I know who I am”. Really? Honest self-assessments are the hallmark of super successful individuals. They know where to draw the line and inevitably those who make the greatest pitch.

Resolve to stop the Comparison Game- We all have a different mountain to climb. Win the battle, not every race. Confident people resolutely run their own race, avoiding the temptation to compare constantly.

The Optimistic Outlook- Life can be hard enough. Let’s stop being too harsh on ourselves. These individuals have mastered the ability to appreciate life’s battles, knowing that it will serve to make them more resilient. Confidence is not, “They will like me. Confidence is, “I will be fine if they don’t.”

Never doubt your ability to grow and enlarge your vision. It all starts with YOU! Whether it’s succeeding in business or dating a new person, it all rests undeniably on the confidence paradigm. Confidence is taking charge of your future and accepting total responsibility. “It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you are Not.”

As an NLP Trainer and Coach, one of the most commonly asked issues is how to build confidence. Here are simple steps to build confidence.

  1. Think when was the last time you felt highly confidence and you would rate this experience on a scale of 0-10, 0 being least motivated and 10 being highly motivated somewhere above 6.

  2. Now, imagine you are reliving that experience and seeing what you could see in that state of high confidence, hear what you could hear and feel how confident you are feeling at that moment.

  3. When you are at the pinnacle of this experience, I want you to do something unique which you can remember, like for eg, touching one of knuckles or click of fingers or something which is unique and you will remember. ( This acts as an anchor for you)

  4. Take 3 or 4 deep breaths and

  5. Now do you unique action (touching your knuckles or clicking your fingers) – This will instantly take you back to the same memories which you had thought about before anchoring.

You may want to get in touch with an NLP Practitioner, to get this done perfectly and for different things in your life like improving motivation, getting rid of the habit of procrastination, changing from confusion to understanding, getting clarity on something, etc.

The coach can also guide you even you don’t have any previous encounter with confidence.

I use a variety of techniques like NLP, Hypnosis, EFT, Energy Healing and Reiki.

Michael Jordan sums it up beautifully, “If you are confident you have done everything possible to prepare yourself, then there is nothing to fear.”