Twelve steps to Transition

Twelve TIPS to Create Transformations in Life

“Take the first step in faith. You do not have to see the whole staircase; just take the first step.”
One of the most influential thinkers of this century uttered these words a long time ago. Martin Luther King Jr.  

And yet taking that First step is fraught with anxiety and second thoughts. The moment we think of taking action, our mind immediately goes to work. It presents a million reasons why a particular venture won’t work, why it’s not the right time, why it will hamper existing activities, and so forth. Our minds, thus thoroughly convinced, prefer complacency and inaction. And this cycle repeats itself and is commonly known as Procrastination and affects millions worldwide. 

If you are reading this and wondering how to break this cycle of lethargy and indecision, you are in the right place.

There are only two ways for long-term behaviour change: Change your environment, or start with something tiny that’s very easy to repeat and make that become a habit. The tiny habits method requires minimal motivation and is best for procedural type habits we wish to create.

BJ Fogg’s proposed a simple model which is commonly known as B=MAT model: When the trigger, motivation, and ability happen at the same time, the behaviour will occur. Use your existing behaviour as triggers. If you put the new behaviour after an existing behaviour, you can use the existing behaviour as a trigger. Then string the tiny habits together to form a routine.

If you have an habit of smoking every few hours, if you place a new behaviour like every time you want to smoke, you get up and start walking or call up your coach or parents or someone close to you. When you repeat this new behaviour couple of times, it strings together the trigger with the new behaviour to form a routine.

Further whenever the behaviour is rewarded, we will be more inclined to repeat the behaviour.

For example Procrastination can become a habit because when we procrastinate, it’s always for short-term mood repair: We procrastinate to avoid feeling the anxiety or fear which is rewarded with a feeling of relief. And when we reward a behaviour, we’re more likely to repeat it.

Let me give you some TIPS you can take right now that will enable you to transition into greater productivity and will serve as the launchpad that will position you for more excellent opportunities:

TIP Number One Live by the Regret Minimization framework. Nothing is more painful than looking back with regret and wishing you had the courage to take action. 

TIP Number Two Decide what you “truly” want. What makes you come alive? What seems effortless? What would motivate you to jump out of bed in the every morning? 

TIP Number Three- Keep the Bigger Picture in mind. We are not aiming for temporary gains, though they are great. Rather the objective must be, If I see myself ten years from now, would I be happy with the outcome? 

TIP Number Four Take Personal responsibility. I cannot emphasize this enough. Is there anyone coming to save you, and no one will accomplish your dreams for you? If you want it, go for it. 

TIP Number Five- Be Comfortable with the Uncomfortable. We have often heard the term, “Live Life Out of your comfort zone. There are moments when you would like nothing better than to quit. It’s at those times you must remind yourself why you started. Keep Going! 

TIP Number Six Establish a disciplined framework or a robust action plan. Now that you have the bigger picture, how do you get there? Break it down into manageable action steps. Nothing audacious. Remember, one step at a time. You might have the best framework and might probably be brimming with positivity. But it will amount to nothing if you lack the discipline to pursue it.

TIP Number SevenBe Intentional with your time. Eliminate distractions and unnecessary activities that can be delegated. Everyone, like you, has the same 24 hours. Be a master at time management. Your future self will thank you.

TIP Number Eight Expect rejections. Fail, Fail, and fail again. It’s as important as success. In Michael Jordan’s words- “I must have missed more than 9000 shots in my career and lost almost 300 games. More than 26 times, I have been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.”

TIP Number Nine Create a Winning Environment. Your environment always has a direct correlation to your overall productivity. Create an ambiance where you would love to work and watch your productivity skyrocket.

TIP Number Ten Get Enough zzz. Yes, you heard that right! Too many people sacrifice sleep in a bid to accomplish more. Unfortunately, this plan backfires and ends up creating additional problems.

TIP Number Eleven Stop Believing in Quick fixes. There are no shortcuts to success. People often say, “The view is excellent from the top. “Of Course it is. Sometimes you must go through hell and high water until you reach the top. The Sense of Achievement will far outweigh the efforts invested. I promise.

Have you heard of the adage? Nothing is as risky as staying stagnant. There is a world of truth in that statement. In a constantly evolving world, staying right where you are is akin to playing with fire. It can have severe repercussions.

And that brings me to the last but significant Point!

TIP Number Twelve It’s not an option. To have a different result, you have to do things differently. Time is flying. Take some time today to implement the strategies listed above. Let today be the beginning of something great!

Remember Small Transitions pave way for Major Transformation in Life.

Day One or Some Day. You Decide.

 

 

Why you must step out of the comfort zone

Change Happens Outside Your Comfort Zone

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A.A. Milne

At some point in our lives, we do everything for the first time; therefore, accepting challenges and, at times, failures are a part of stepping out of our comfort zone. We all have a comfort zone, that space within which we feel safe and in control and where things come easy for us. Life seems good in the comfort zone because there is little to be afraid of or worried about, and there is a low risk of failure, rejection, or other unpleasant experiences. However, the problem with living in our comfort zone is that there is little room for growth and learning. Growth and learning come only from venturing beyond the comfort zone.

And yet, the vast majority of people are gripped by an icy fear and experience feelings of significant discomfort the moment they are faced with the proposition of change. Why is this, you may ask? Possibly it could be the fear of the unknown, fear of failing, or at other times, “What will people think if I fail?” All of the above could be just an assumption with no real truth to it, but it still stops people in their tracks. Most people would prefer a highly toxic situation and let sleeping dogs lie rather than rock the boat.

The infographics provided by Positive Psychology speak of different Zones where various behavior changes occur.

Comfort Zone

The red circle represents our comfort zone. It is the space in which we feel safe and in control. However, no Learning or Growth takes place here.

Fear Zone

To learn and grow, we must leave the comfort zone and step into the fear zone (orange circle), which is far less comfortable. The fear zone is uncomfortable. We do not know what to expect and cannot build on our previous experiences.

Learning Zone

If we can muster the courage to endure the fear zone, we come out on the other side, the learning zone. (Yellow Circle) , where we can begin to acquire new skills and learn to deal with challenges and problems.

Growth Zone

When we stay long enough in the learning zone, we begin to experience that we can change and start to redefine ourselves in terms of what we can do, achieve, and feel comfortable with. The growth zone is the bigger picture, that which we have gained at a more fundamental, personal level. Entering the growth zone is the ultimate reward for enduring the fear zone.

Stepping out could well mean the difference between mediocre and excellent. If you are one of those who gravitate towards excellence, this is for you.

Consider a person with a fear of public speaking. Avoiding any and every opportunity to speak publicly allows this person to remain in his comfort zone and not face the fear of failing, not knowing, or unsatisfactory performance.

If, however, an unavoidable speaking event arises, such as being asked to speak at a work meeting, this person will be required to leave their comfort zone and step into the fear zone. Just before the meeting, this person may experience feelings of anxiety and self-doubt and a strong desire to run away. However, by enduring this fear and speaking at the gathering, he/she will enter the learning zone and begin to acquire new skills.

 

This growth and learning could not have occurred, had this person opted to stay within his comfort zone.

 

Five Benefits of Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone

Risk-taking ability. Taking risks helps us to grow. People who take calculated risks, again and again, develop renewed confidence. They are at extreme ease in new, unexpected situations.

Your ability to navigate your emotions will be phenomenal when you live a life of continuously stepping out of your comfort zone. You will be better equipped as a result of that failure.

You will begin to see yourself differently. Having crossed the Fear Zone and staying in the Learning Zone, you have gone through the “toughening up,” and your confidence will be at an all-time high.

Your skillset will grow. In other words, you might be considered an expert in your field, which will lead to more opportunities. You will, in essence, have established your credibility, & that’s a powerful place to operate from.

You will motivate others without lifting a finger. Your Survival Guide will script someone else’s success story. 

 

And it all starts with a choice. Now, you are just one decision away from choosing a completely different life. Move Mountains, take risks, and step out of your comfort zone today. Your future self will thank you. I guarantee that!!

 

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder-approved training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code and Master Practitioner NLP Certifications in India, Africa and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, international. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

He is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines and completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EQ and Energy coaching.

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