The Power of Being Proactive

One of the secrets of success is to refuse to let temporary setbacks defeat us. Every individual on this planet has perhaps faced a failure or a setback at some stage in their life. Successful people forge ahead despite the setbacks and see failure as an opportunity to come back stronger. While others see setbacks as an excuse to blame themselves and the circumstances for their misfortunes. In the words of the prominent philosopher, Denis Waitley. “Success in life comes not from holding a good hand, but in playing a poor hand well.”’

Being proactive in a negative situation is not naïve. Its leadership. An individual’s response governs not only how far they will go but also the influence they might have on others. The ability to see the gold in every situation is a skill that must be mastered. And the fact that you are reading this right now is a demonstration of your desire to cultivate those skills.

Given below are some of the key steps that I have seen countless people implement successfully in their lives. In no particular Order:

Stop being “the Victim”– Often we see ourselves at being the receiving end of things. Things didn’t go our way. People treated us badly. And our plans backfired. Now we play the victim card and end up feeling more miserable. Stop adding fuel to the fire and choose to take ownership. Nothing will make you feel better than choosing to actively participate in the construction of your life.

Some people will Never Support you– The World is not waiting to cheer you on and let’s accept it, “some people will never give you credit even if you accomplish the gigantic task of conquering Mt Everest.” Accept it. Do yourself a favor and Move on.

Learn from your failures– This is crucial. Most people would prefer to forget the embarrassing episode and the time that presentation bombed. Quick tip. People aren’t quite thinking about it as much as you are. Learn the lesson. Or else life will present the same test again to do a quick check on your proficiency.

It’s all About Perspective– Jack Ma failed multiple times before Alibaba became a household name. Would he have gotten far if he hadn’t learnt from his failures? I doubt it.

Think about how far you have Come– All the challenges and roadblocks that you faced. The Innumerable obstacles you faced to make it till this very minute. Are you seriously going to throw it all away for a temporary detour?

Take a break, PLEASE– You must have heard this repeated quite often. “Rest if you must but don’t you quit. Or, “sleep on it. “We are not designed to function on optimum efficiency 24/7. And when you are severely burned out, minor irritations can take the shape of something momentous. Taking a break is not a luxury. It’s a necessity just as important as food and water.

Pay Attention to the Details– Every failure, every setback has unlimited potential. Now you know what wont work. Now you have gone through the fire so to speak. Those lessons will prove to be priceless when you embark on another venture. Failure is just as important as Success.

Take Personal Responsibility– Most people would prefer coasting through life and then naively expect a different result. Our lives are governed by cause and effect. Its virtually impossible to reap the results if you haven’t invested any effort into it.

Play the Long Game– There are no quick fixes. And if you live long enough, you will inevitably run into defeats and failures. Your response in a negative situation will change the dynamic. Choose wisely.

Resolve to make a Winning Comeback– Now you have gone through it all. Resolve to WIN this time around. The greater the failure, the greater the drive to succeed. Fail and fail often. That is the fuel you need for your home run.

Remember, mistakes are proof that you are trying. That you are human. Every setback is an invitation to grow, evolve and come back stronger. Les Brown sums it up brilliantly,” Anytime you suffer a setback or disappointment, put your head down and plow ahead.”

Your Setback is the Platform for your Comeback.

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Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder-approved training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code and Master Practitioner NLP Certifications in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, international. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

He is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines and completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EI and Energy coaching.

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Breaking the Cycle of Addiction and Gain Control

The most crucial step towards recovery is acknowledging that there is a problem. Addiction has been defined as the “fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance or activity.” An individual goes through a process of pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, maintenance and finally termination in an addictive cycle.

 

It takes courage to stare addiction in the face and decide that you are no longer a slave to your weaknesses.

That you are reading this right now,  I can assume that you would like to change your current lifestyle. Below are key action steps that will enable you to take stock and gain greater control over your choices.

 

Identify Triggers– You are in a winning position already if you are self-aware. Specific social settings and interactions are bound to cause a swift escalation, and you might find yourself in the same “situation” you were desperately trying to escape. Identifying triggers is the number one step if you intend to break a negative pattern.

Journal– You might say, Wait, What? Research has proven that writing down your action plan can strengthen your brain’s capacity to gravitate towards the positive. It creates a positive image, and every single time you are faced with a dilemma, your mind inevitably presents the best option. Repeat this a couple of times, and before you know it, decision-making will become effortless!

Set a Date– Make a tough decision to bring about a lasting transformation and set an end date. Be Ruthless with yourself. If possible, take the assistance of an accountability partner, someone who will cheer you on and criticize you if you slack off. More often than not, procrastination robs us of living our best life.

Gradual Gains– Nothing happens overnight. When the end goal is letting go of a bad habit, focus on gradual progress. Reward the minutest effort. That will strengthen your resolve.

Renew your Environment– It is an uphill climb if you are trying to make progress while the environment continues to be toxic. If certain people or situations exacerbate the problem, you must take a bold stand and remove yourself from the scene.

Be Conscientious– Nothing like persistence. Too many people had quit at the one-yard line just when victory was in sight. The problem is that an individual enters into a deep depression when there is no reward after all that effort. Now there is no motivation to try again. Don’t let that happen to you. Encourage yourself by saying, “you are in it to win it.”

Idle Mind- Devil’s Workshop– Fill your schedule to the brim. Go out with your friends and colleagues for some downtime, watch a movie, or go on a vacation. How about Learning a new skill or exploring a new Course. Idle time management is crucial on the road to recovery.

Monitor your Progress– There might be instances of relapse from time to time. Don’t let that dissuade you. Acknowledge that you are trying your best and make a fresh start the following day. If you keep at it, you will be surprised at how much you have accomplished and how far you have come.

Seek Help– Research support groups, interact with mentors, and read about how people are handling the addiction that you are currently facing. Read Success stories. Meet people who have successfully overcome a harmful lifestyle. There is no shame in reaching out. It might prove to be the wisest decision.

Make an Appointment– Schedule an appointment with a skilled therapist knowledgeable on NLP or Coaching based on Cognitive behavior therapy, Gestalt techniques, and behavioral therapy. Be frank with your concerns and welcome their feedback.

Exercise– “There is no depression buster as effective for me as exercise,” Says mental health advocate Therese J Borchard. Exercise enhances overall mood and productivity. Not only that, it has been proven to improve self-esteem as well.

The road to recovery is not easy. You are not alone in this fight. When you seek help, you will gradually feel empowered to make the right decisions. Too many people sadly give up, not realizing that there are many resources and trusted professionals with a stellar track record of changing lives.

While there are plenty of other strategies that people have successfully used to conquer addiction, I have just outlined a few as “food for thought” that might hopefully encourage you to read more and take personal responsibility toward creating a brighter, healthier future for yourself!

You can book an appointment for a free session to discuss about your addiction related issue and choose to Break the Cycle of Addiction and Gain Control

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder-approved training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code and Master Practitioner NLP Certifications in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, international. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

He is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines and completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EI and Energy coaching.

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Balancing the Impact of Screen Time on Children

A prominent psychologist commented recently, “The more screen exposure young people have, toddlers, in particular, the more behavior problems they have and the more learning problems they have earlier on,” “Kids need to interact with the real world before they start to get sucked into the virtual world.”

The world has changed upside down post the pandemic, and more youngsters are spending time latched on to their phones and tablets. Gone are the days when children roamed free in the fields, climbed trees, and enjoyed moments in the sun. Now adventure means video games and moments outside are replaced with tik-tok and YouTube. Excessive screen time prevents youngsters from fostering deep personal relationships, impacts sleep, and health, and makes them more irritable and rebellious.

Let’s not discredit the various advantages balanced screen time offers. An introduction to the digital world fosters curiosity and builds problem-solving skills. When young children are introduced to applications and new software, it gives them a competitive advantage. They become proficient at a young age in solving complex problems, increasing their confidence.

Given below are some of the ways that parents and children can work together while at the same time ensuring screen time is set to a minimum:

Choose the Right Content As a parent, you must filter the content that is appropriate for a youngster.

Discuss Digital Content Encourage children to share what they have learnt, give them a question and ask them to find the answer. This will ensure that they remember essential information. Watch podcasts and other educational videos together.

Give them a Project This will pique their interest and creativity. It will encourage them to think “out of the box.” Reward the effort at the end.

Schedule Family Time Together Children benefit greatly when they see their parents excited about the same things that interest them. That builds trust and makes you, the parent, Approachable!

Make Learning Fun The pandemic has forced families to come closer. Use this as an opportunity to instill critical skills and values in your child. Children model their parents and are far more observant than we give them credit. They will readily follow in your footsteps and embrace learning as a fun activity if you portray it that way.

Time Management– Ensure that screen time is set to a minimum and children are encouraged to have a life outside their computers and phones. This is key to their balanced development. Research has proved that “excessive screen time” leads to hostile and antisocial behavior.

Set a Weekly Check in This could be planned as a fun outing or a picnic. While children enjoy the fresh air, talk to them about important life principles and check how they feel at school, what they have been learning and what they would like to speak about. You would be surprised to know that, given the right incentive, children feel free to share the minutest details of their lives.

Communicate Often Make Conversation easy, encourage small talk, and set a dedicated time when you listen to your child. After a While, you will notice that your child will look forward to time with you over screen time. Unfortunately, most children resort to spending time alone with their gadgets when they notice their parents are just “too busy” for them. That leads to various personality and learning defects that could have been avoided.

Be their Friend Your Child must run to you with the slightest grievance and the smallest victory. Talk to them as a friend and seek to understand first.

Fun Times Plant a garden, attend music festivals together, go fishing or build a sand castle. The activities are numerous and beat “screen time,” hands down.

Be Strategic and Intentional We all lead busy lives. There’s no way around it. It’s crucial to be intentional about family time. If it is important, you have to make it a priority.

Technology is here to stay. Our world and corporations are driven by technology, and it’s good to keep abreast of the latest developments happening in the world, but not at the cost of one’s health and frayed family relationships. That’s a huge price to pay!

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified trainer of NLP” and organizes John Grinder-approved training in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few ITA (International Training Academy) trainers in the world who are authorized to run New Code and Master Practitioner NLP Certifications in India and the Middle East. He has more than 1000 hours of coaching experience and is an ICF accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds, international. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their most significant potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotionally intelligent coaching.

He is presently pursuing his PhD in Alternative therapies and Integrative Medicines and completed studies in Psychotherapy from Chicago School of Professional Psychology.

He is also the Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt. Ltd, India, which specializes in Coaching in variety of Modalities like NLP, EFT, EI and Energy coaching.

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