An Alternative Way to Handle Bed-Wetting

bedwettingBedwetting, or Nocturnal Enuresis, refers to the unintentional passage of urine during sleep. An extremely embarrassing disorder that can almost radically alter an individual’s lifestyle, and almost render him/her a societal pariah. Bedwetting still occurs on all nights for 15% of all five-year-old kids, and about 3% of all 15 years olds. Almost all children have done so early in their childhood with no significant repercussions, barring parental rebuke.

It attains the form of a debilitating disorder if it continues in adulthood, and almost singlehandedly renders the individual helpless to the extent of an individual shunning the public eye. The most noted consequence of Bedwetting is that children suffer from issues of confidence and self-esteem.


Children have “fragile egos”, and a little moderation in dealing with issues can serve to be the crucial factor that leads to a child eventually outgrowing the disorder. However, a medical test must be carried out to rule out any other illness that might be the contributing factor.

Nevertheless, it should always be remembered that in the majority of cases, the cause is simply a habit.

For adults, this can be devastating. Antidiuretic hormone (ADH) signals your kidneys to slow down the production of urine. For some individuals, their bodies don’t produce enough ADH and at other times, tumors can obstruct theurinary passage. An XRAY or Ultrasound of the kidneys can be the primary step in assessing the extent of the damage. I think it’s highly important at this stage to reiterate the importance of getting the correct diagnosis. Many individuals have paid a huge price in terms of the sheer magnitude of money spent and a complete waste of time in gaining a secondary opinion. The medical industry is definitely not the same as it was years ago, and the importance of ascertaining the cause of the problem can’t be emphasized enough.

I remember reading “Chicken Soup for the Soul” by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. Story upon story stressed the importance of having a supportive network of family and friends who rallied for the individual’s recovery. And that brings me to the all-important point “There’s so much that medicine can do”.  It’s a positive attitude and a supportive network that eventually restores the individual to a degree of normalcy despite the rigors of the treatment and the uncertainty about the road ahead. Lisa Ray’s “The Yellow Diaries” became viral because it gave people an option to connect the dots and identify with the individual, thereby generating public empathy and support. Resolving this issue is more than achieving nighttime dryness. It’s also working on your child’s confidence and self-esteem.



With the advancement of neurosciences, it is now clearer than ever before that, our minds are continuously creating new neural pathways. This is the key to an alternative solution to Bedwetting, i.e. NLP.

In my experience, inducing an alternate state in the affected person, the required outcomes can be reinforced and repeated over a period of time, it will then become a part of unconscious competence and will be transformed into a habit of staying dry at nights. I use a series of activities like drawings, visualization and guided imagery over a period to help the client build an unconscious connection to resources which is already within the client.


Depending on the client’s habits, we might need to redesign some of the habits like drinking water, waking up at night for toilets including how the fears associated with bedwetting are handled.

When faced with a debilitating issue which may range from severe to mild, it’s important to realize the power of networks and building bridges. Someone has rightly said, “A problem shared is a problem halved.”

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified Trainer of NLP” and Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt Ltd, India. He organizes Grinder approved training in India and the Middle East. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. He conducts NLP Practitioner and New Code NLP Trainings in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few who are authorized by ITA (International Training Academy) to conduct New Code NLP Certifications in India and the Middle East. Being Certified in Energy Leadership Index Assessment by one of the largest ICF-accredited coach training schools in the world, “Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching” (iPEC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their greatest potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotional intelligence coaching.

Being among the Top NLP Trainers in India, Sajid’s USP is How to get rid of Phobias, you are invited to check out his next NLP Training in Bangalore

If you are interested to find out more of this technique, you can book a free session with him using the below link.


How To Get Rid Of Phobias

Taming Your Phobias

According to Wikipedia, a phobia is defined as
“A type of anxiety disorder, defined by a persistent and excessive fear of an object or situation.”

All of us experience irrational fears from time to time that almost seem insurmountable. The average individual is equipped with coping mechanisms that enable him/her to effectively deal with overwhelming situations. Phobias, on the other hand, are paralyzing in their intensity that almost always spiral out of control, and the individual is caught in a dangerous whiplash that doesn’t seem to subside. Every event or object suddenly assumes the shape of a dangerous giant that wages a constant battle with the individual’s mind.

Most popular phobias are the fear of flying, commonly referred to as aerophobia and the fear of confined spaces commonly called claustrophobia. Then there are social phobias wherein there is absolute and complete panic in social settings. A part of the brain called the amygdala, which controls many of our emotional responses including the fear response, may also contribute to many phobias. Now the obvious question might be, “why is it important to eliminate phobias? The answer is startlingly simple. Because it prevents us from accomplishing what we want in life. Because it stunts an individual’s potential. It’s crucial to ask oneself every once in a while, “Am I fulfilling my highest potential? And if I am not, “What is stopping me from doing so?” Sometimes, an individual is so traumatized that it’s imperative to take the help of a coach who can effectively ascertain the disorder and offer timely guidance.

There are various methods to treat phobias. The first is desensitization or exposure therapy, which focuses on “changing your response to the object or situation that you fear” through repeated exposure. Cognitive-behavioral therapy helps patients by teaching them various coping mechanisms. Medication such as beta-blockers and sedatives are sometimes used along with these methods, depending on the severity of the case. In addition to this relaxation techniques such as deep breathing and yoga can have a very calming effect when used in conjunction with the above methods.

But the Fast Phobia Cure by NLP Practitioners put all other techniques at bay. People living with their phobia for 10, 15 and even 20 years get a coaching session for less than 30 minutes and the phobia no longer exists. They adopt a technique of double dissociation and de-link the phobic images and emotions. This was developed by Richard Bandler where he uses projector booth visualization to attain the results. John Grinder, on the other hand, uses spatial dissociation techniques to attain the same result.

Coaching plays a crucial role as the individual feels “understood” and “supported”. Effective coaching mechanisms include offering unconditional support either on a one to one basis or by gently guiding an individual to join a support group. Alcoholics anonymous is all about the power of “WE”. Additionally, a coach nudges an individual to talk openly about his dilemmas and anxieties. This has a very therapeutic effect as the individual is able to talk freely and in the process feels relieved of pent up feelings and frustrations. The coach asks key questions and gradually enables an individual to confront fears and phobias. The entire process may sometimes take months as it’s quite a precarious task to bolster an individuals’ strength as opposed to tearing it apart. 

Effective coaching mechanisms inevitably bring an individual to the point of self-discovery. What might have caused me to develop this fear? If I decide to take medications, how long will it take for my symptoms to improve? Are some of the key questions asked by a person who is on the road to recovery. Simply put, one can sufficiently conclude that coaching has been effective when an individual takes an active role in his/her journey to a maximized fulfilled lifestyle. Leadership is taking personal accountability for your life. Nothing more, Nothing Less.

Why is this important at such a time as this?

Have you been treated for other psychiatric symptoms or mental illness in the past? If yes, what type of therapy was most beneficial? Have you ever thought about harming yourself? Do you avoid any situations or places because you fear they’ll trigger your symptoms? Are just a few examples of effective coaching mechanisms used by practitioners.

Addressing phobias is a vast field that requires in-depth analysis. With the help of effective coaching mechanisms, it is often possible to overcome or at least significantly reduce the impact of a phobia.

Sajid Ahamed is “Certified Trainer of NLP” and Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt Ltd, India. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. He is ITA (International Training Academy) approved NLP and New Code Trainer in India and the Middle East. Certified in Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner by one of the largest ICF-accredited coach training schools in the world, “Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching” (iPEC), Coach Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their greatest potential and evolve into their personal best version.

If you are interested to find out more of this technique, you can book a free session with him using the below link.