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Let it go and celebrate!

Let it go and Celebrate!

Let it go and Celebrate!

Someone has rightly said that “Yesterday is already a dream, and tomorrow is only a vision, but today, well-lived, makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope”.

Let it go

We are all in search of people who love us and validate our overall okay-ness. We want our friends to understand us, we want to feel like we belong, like we fit in. Some of us want to lead, some of us follow, some of us stand somewhere in between. But, we are all always walking towards love, the acquisition of love in all its forms. It is a merry-go-round. Only when we decide to break these manacles, we can achieve true liberation and freedom.

We all are some recombination of our yesterdays. But ever wondered, how your sorrow yesterdays can be affecting your beautiful tomorrows adversely? Yes, you heard it right. We are so often struck in our past experiences that we tend to miss out on our wonderful present and future moments. Past is like a gum, it sticks with you till you consciously decide to let go. It can hamper your relationships with those around you and you need to make efforts to get rid of it.

You need to know why it is so important to let go in life. Everything around you is transient and you need to come to terms with reality that you cannot hold things for long. Be it relationships, success or fame, you cannot expect your life to be like a rainbow every day. Thus, learning the art of letting go becomes indispensable for us as relinquishing unhealthy attachments will give us the power to deal with courageously with tough situations in life. Releasing those negative emotions and influences around you can help you to enjoy precious moments and live life to the fullest.

Embracing what all you have and letting go of what you had should thus be the essence of our lives. When you wish to unlock the key to happiness and love, you need to learn the art of gratitude and forgiveness. Letting go can be broader connotations and it also means not succumbing to meaningless words and wasting your emotions on people and things who don’t love and respect you.

With time, you would realize that not every thing you wish to hold on to is worth your time. Walking away can be really fruitful in such situations. You need to realize that you cannot hold on to things which hamper your mental growth and personality. There is so much you can accomplish in life only if you stop wasting your time thinking about your past and concentrating on your future.

Sometimes the changes we don’t want are the changes we need, to flourish and grow. All you need to remember is that changes need to happen for a reason. They might not be easy but they could make your life worthwhile. Sticking to things which don’t belong to you can be more painful. Hence, true wisdom lies in having faith in what could be and letting go of what was.

Letting go can be a tedious process especially if you were extremely attached to someone but breaking away from the emotional shackles is sometimes necessary. Letting go can become easy if you let go of the fear of losing someone and forgiving them for what they did to you. This way you are letting go of the negative emotions and embracing positivity.

Let it go and celebrate!

Showing gratitude and forgiving the ones who hurt you can thus lead you to the path of true happiness. Also, you shouldn’t keep waiting for the perfect moments to make positive changes in life. It might be difficult to forgive someone who hurted you to the core. But eventually with time, you would learn that by choosing to forgive, you are giving yourself the power to rule your life the way you want. On the other hand, if you keep holding to those who don’t value your presence in their life, you will never be able to move on.

Hence in a nutshell, letting go is important for your own well being, happiness and peace of mind. Someone has rightly said that “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or conditioned by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. There is no denying the fact that letting go can turn out to be therapeutic for you if you really wish to live a blissful life. Always remember that only you hold the power to let anyone affect you. You cannot change your past and this is exactly what you need to imbibe to be able to live happily and freely.

Relationship with Self

Relationship with Self

Relationship with Self

Relationship with self is the utmost important aspect of our life. You don’t really need  to depend on others in your life to make you feel happy and special. Studies have shown that no relationships, materialistic things can make you feel content in life. The only thing that you should yearn for is your relationship with yourself.

Relationship with Self

It won’t be wrong to say that your relationship with your own being is central to everything that happens in your life. The way you feel internally would also play an instrumental role in shaping your relationships with those around you. Trust me, you wont be able to fake a smile for long if you are internally in a state of turmoil, anxiety or depression. Thus your inner state of being would reflect how well things go out in your life.

At the end, we all crave to love and be loved in return. Doesn’t that give us a feeling of fulfillment? Acceptance of others make us feel worthy and lovable. Isn’t it? Not experiencing that emotional connection can actually lead to solitude and dejectedness in life. Thus, relationship with self should always remain the focal point. No matter what might happen around you, learning to connect with yourself is the baby step towards achieving true bliss and happiness in life. Depending on yourself is the best thing that you can do to yourself. People around you can change and they might disappoint you. Therefore, relying on others for your emotional stability is definitely not a desirable thing.

When you would abandon your own self, you would create a vacuum wherein you would start repelling those around you. Your lack of fulfillment inside would push people away and you might end feeling even more lonely and unloved. On the other hand, when you take responsibility for your own self, you open doors to embracing your weaknesses and negativities. Thus, this sense of deep inner fulfillment is what you should strive for.

One thing which we should remember is that we cannot fill others life with love and happiness if we are void inside. Believe me, you cannot connect with others till you are connected with your own inner being. Also, social isolation and loneliness are results of inner loneliness and connection with self. Also, your inner self is your sole partner in times of stress, anxiety and depression. Therefore, developing a relationship with your inner self should be your ultimate goal.

Relationship with Self

According to a renowned novel namely Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, people living in connected communities are healthier than those who live in isolated places. Hence, connection with self is important as it impacts your relationship with others. When we lose connect with our self and fail to feel the compassion, then we lose the ability to feel compassion for others. Someone has rightly said that when you make yourself a priority, you don’t fear people around you. At the end, what really matters is how much you love yourself. No one can make you feel unwanted until you want to feel that way.

HOW CAN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF HELP YOU?

  • Improved relationships with people you really value and love.
  • Increased self esteem and positive attitude towards life.
  • Becoming aware of your weaknesses and acceptance for them.
  • Rejuvenation and enthusiasm to face everything with a positive spirit.
  • Emotional stability and balance in relationships and life.
  • Appreciating and embracing what you have in life.
  • Making the lives of others more worthwhile and wholesome.

When you will be connected with your own self, you will be filled with feelings of gratitude and forgiveness. This would help you to de clutter your life and you will be able to embrace negativities and deal with them courageously.

Try this simple exercise if you are wanting to begin your journey towards self introspection.

Close your eyes and repeat: “I am a miracle.”
Smile.
Say it again.
Smile even wider.
Say it again.
Open your eyes.

These four magical words “I am a miracle” are all you need to be able to keep you going throughout the day despite emotional roller coasters which you might face.

Ever wondered, what is the greatest hurdle you face in loving yourself? It is nothing else but acceptance of others. We depend so much on what others think about ourselves and tend to forget that we all are different and unique in our own ways. This becomes the major obstacle in our path to enlightenment and love for ourselves.

Hence, in a nutshell, there is no stopping your way if you choose the path of loving yourself infinitely. Govern your life the way you want to and create your own joys, love, and happiness without depending on others around you.  In order to feel alive and vibrant every single day, you simply need to remind yourself that everything around you is transitory and ephemeral. You would start putting yourself on a higher pedestal the day you would realize that nothing is more important than your feelings and emotions.