An Alternative Way to Handle Bed-Wetting

bedwettingBedwetting, or Nocturnal Enuresis, refers to the unintentional passage of urine during sleep. An extremely embarrassing disorder that can almost radically alter an individual’s lifestyle, and almost render him/her a societal pariah. Bedwetting still occurs on all nights for 15% of all five-year-old kids, and about 3% of all 15 years olds. Almost all children have done so early in their childhood with no significant repercussions, barring parental rebuke.

It attains the form of a debilitating disorder if it continues in adulthood, and almost singlehandedly renders the individual helpless to the extent of an individual shunning the public eye. The most noted consequence of Bedwetting is that children suffer from issues of confidence and self-esteem.


Children have “fragile egos”, and a little moderation in dealing with issues can serve to be the crucial factor that leads to a child eventually outgrowing the disorder. However, a medical test must be carried out to rule out any other illness that might be the contributing factor.

Nevertheless, it should always be remembered that in the majority of cases, the cause is simply a habit.

For adults, this can be devastating. Antidiuretic hormone (ADH) signals your kidneys to slow down the production of urine. For some individuals, their bodies don’t produce enough ADH and at other times, tumors can obstruct theurinary passage. An XRAY or Ultrasound of the kidneys can be the primary step in assessing the extent of the damage. I think it’s highly important at this stage to reiterate the importance of getting the correct diagnosis. Many individuals have paid a huge price in terms of the sheer magnitude of money spent and a complete waste of time in gaining a secondary opinion. The medical industry is definitely not the same as it was years ago, and the importance of ascertaining the cause of the problem can’t be emphasized enough.

I remember reading “Chicken Soup for the Soul” by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. Story upon story stressed the importance of having a supportive network of family and friends who rallied for the individual’s recovery. And that brings me to the all-important point “There’s so much that medicine can do”.  It’s a positive attitude and a supportive network that eventually restores the individual to a degree of normalcy despite the rigors of the treatment and the uncertainty about the road ahead. Lisa Ray’s “The Yellow Diaries” became viral because it gave people an option to connect the dots and identify with the individual, thereby generating public empathy and support. Resolving this issue is more than achieving nighttime dryness. It’s also working on your child’s confidence and self-esteem.



With the advancement of neurosciences, it is now clearer than ever before that, our minds are continuously creating new neural pathways. This is the key to an alternative solution to Bedwetting, i.e. NLP.

In my experience, inducing an alternate state in the affected person, the required outcomes can be reinforced and repeated over a period of time, it will then become a part of unconscious competence and will be transformed into a habit of staying dry at nights. I use a series of activities like drawings, visualization and guided imagery over a period to help the client build an unconscious connection to resources which is already within the client.


Depending on the client’s habits, we might need to redesign some of the habits like drinking water, waking up at night for toilets including how the fears associated with bedwetting are handled.

When faced with a debilitating issue which may range from severe to mild, it’s important to realize the power of networks and building bridges. Someone has rightly said, “A problem shared is a problem halved.”

Sajid Ahamed is a “Certified Trainer of NLP” and Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt Ltd, India. He organizes Grinder approved training in India and the Middle East. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. He conducts NLP Practitioner and New Code NLP Trainings in India and the Middle East. He is one of the few who are authorized by ITA (International Training Academy) to conduct New Code NLP Certifications in India and the Middle East. Being Certified in Energy Leadership Index Assessment by one of the largest ICF-accredited coach training schools in the world, “Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching” (iPEC). He is also certified and authorized to conduct Emotional intelligence Assessments by Six Seconds. Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their greatest potential and evolve into their personal best version through emotional intelligence coaching.

Being among the Top NLP Trainers in India, Sajid’s USP is How to get rid of Phobias, you are invited to check out his next NLP Training in Bangalore

If you are interested to find out more of this technique, you can book a free session with him using the below link.


Taming Your Phobias

According to Wikipedia, a phobia is defined as
“A type of anxiety disorder, defined by a persistent and excessive fear of an object or situation.”

All of us experience irrational fears from time to time that almost seem insurmountable. The average individual is equipped with coping mechanisms that enable him/her to effectively deal with overwhelming situations. Phobias, on the other hand, are paralyzing in their intensity that almost always spiral out of control, and the individual is caught in a dangerous whiplash that doesn’t seem to subside. Every event or object suddenly assumes the shape of a dangerous giant that wages a constant battle with the individual’s mind.

Most popular phobias are the fear of flying, commonly referred to as aerophobia and the fear of confined spaces commonly called claustrophobia. Then there are social phobias wherein there is absolute and complete panic in social settings. A part of the brain called the amygdala, which controls many of our emotional responses including the fear response, may also contribute to many phobias. Now the obvious question might be, “why is it important to eliminate phobias? The answer is startlingly simple. Because it prevents us from accomplishing what we want in life. Because it stunts an individual’s potential. It’s crucial to ask oneself every once in a while, “Am I fulfilling my highest potential? And if I am not, “What is stopping me from doing so?” Sometimes, an individual is so traumatized that it’s imperative to take the help of a coach who can effectively ascertain the disorder and offer timely guidance.

There are various methods to treat phobias. The first is desensitization or exposure therapy, which focuses on “changing your response to the object or situation that you fear” through repeated exposure. Cognitive-behavioral therapy helps patients by teaching them various coping mechanisms. Medication such as beta-blockers and sedatives are sometimes used along with these methods, depending on the severity of the case. In addition to this relaxation techniques such as deep breathing and yoga can have a very calming effect when used in conjunction with the above methods.

But the Fast Phobia Cure by NLP Practitioners put all other techniques at bay. People living with their phobia for 10, 15 and even 20 years get a coaching session for less than 30 minutes and the phobia no longer exists. They adopt a technique of double dissociation and de-link the phobic images and emotions. This was developed by Richard Bandler where he uses projector booth visualization to attain the results. John Grinder, on the other hand, uses spatial dissociation techniques to attain the same result.

Coaching plays a crucial role as the individual feels “understood” and “supported”. Effective coaching mechanisms include offering unconditional support either on a one to one basis or by gently guiding an individual to join a support group. Alcoholics anonymous is all about the power of “WE”. Additionally, a coach nudges an individual to talk openly about his dilemmas and anxieties. This has a very therapeutic effect as the individual is able to talk freely and in the process feels relieved of pent up feelings and frustrations. The coach asks key questions and gradually enables an individual to confront fears and phobias. The entire process may sometimes take months as it’s quite a precarious task to bolster an individuals’ strength as opposed to tearing it apart. 

Effective coaching mechanisms inevitably bring an individual to the point of self-discovery. What might have caused me to develop this fear? If I decide to take medications, how long will it take for my symptoms to improve? Are some of the key questions asked by a person who is on the road to recovery. Simply put, one can sufficiently conclude that coaching has been effective when an individual takes an active role in his/her journey to a maximized fulfilled lifestyle. Leadership is taking personal accountability for your life. Nothing more, Nothing Less.

Why is this important at such a time as this?

Have you been treated for other psychiatric symptoms or mental illness in the past? If yes, what type of therapy was most beneficial? Have you ever thought about harming yourself? Do you avoid any situations or places because you fear they’ll trigger your symptoms? Are just a few examples of effective coaching mechanisms used by practitioners.

Addressing phobias is a vast field that requires in-depth analysis. With the help of effective coaching mechanisms, it is often possible to overcome or at least significantly reduce the impact of a phobia.

Sajid Ahamed is “Certified Trainer of NLP” and Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt Ltd, India. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. He is ITA (International Training Academy) approved NLP and New Code Trainer in India and the Middle East. Certified in Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner by one of the largest ICF-accredited coach training schools in the world, “Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching” (iPEC), Coach Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their greatest potential and evolve into their personal best version.

If you are interested to find out more of this technique, you can book a free session with him using the below link.


The Fundamentals of Coaching

NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic ProgrammingNeuro refers to your neurology; Linguistic refers to how you code the external input to your internal maps and create a representation of these external inputs or in other words code them into a language; Programming refers to how this recoded language is expressed in terms of verbal external language, behaviour and also internal shifts.


NLP began its life as a modelling technology when John Grinder and Richard Bandler embarked on their now-legendary work in capturing the patterns of genius inherent in Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson as stated by International Training Academy for NLP. NLP involves the development of behavioral competence and flexibility but also encompasses a deep understanding of the thought process behind the behaviour.


According to the Oxford English dictionary Neuro-Linguistic Programming is “a model of interpersonal communication chiefly concerned with the relationship between successful patterns of behaviour and the subjective experiences (esp. patterns of thought) underlying them” and “a system of alternative therapy based on this which seeks to educate people in self-awareness and effective communication, and to change their patterns of mental and emotional behaviour.”

NLP is a modelling technology with a specific focus on the set of differences that make the differences between the performances of geniuses and average performers in the same field of activity. The objective of modelling is to explicate in a transferable and learnable way, a set of differences. The core activity of NLP is the mapping of tacit knowledge on to an explicit model. (Carmen Bostic St Clair & John Grinder, adapted from Whispering in the Wind). NLP is a methodology for explicitly mapping and tracking human experience for the purpose of modelling, communicating effectively and creating change. (Michael Carroll, ITA)

Now that we have established what NLP is all about its time to address the advantages of becoming an NLP Coach or a practitioner. By becoming a certified NLP Practitioner in India, you will have all the tools at your disposal to positively impact other people’s lives for the better. And in the process, you will be a transformed individual.

the fundamentals of coachiing

The field of NLP is self-regulated and there are various recognized bodies including the ITA, ANLP, NLPEA, ABNLP, and INLPTA. The NLP Practitioner qualification is gained after successfully completing an NLP Practitioner training course. The NLP Training Courses will be typically 120-130 hours and it’s worth the hours invested. The Primary and possibly the most important attribute for an NLP practitioner is a genuine desire to assist people to achieve excellence and that’s a tall order. It involves a complete understanding of an individual’s map of the world in order to help them develop certain competencies and skills that might have the potential to accelerate their career or change for that matter. We all see the world through our maps of the world and a Change can be effective if it brings about a change in this map of the world.

Here I would like to share my understanding of how to select a good NLP Certification Course and Top NLP Trainers in India. If it is just about transferring information about NLP, there are many online courses, content on Web. But my perspective of getting certified is not having access to this information, but actually experiencing this knowledge bases and making it part of Unconscious Competence. I myself did mistakes of joining courses which are hardly NLP but they are marketed in the name of NLP and I realized that some of the trainers have labelled themselves as Trainers, never ever experienced the training from Masters. They may be good at transferring the information about NLP but not the experience of NLP. Before you make a decision on joining an NLP Certification Course, do some research and decide for yourself what’s the best value for you. Decide for yourself what would you like to invest and get in return…..

Coaching is a high-end skill, and companies and industries are realizing the tremendous impact that coaches have on their clients. We shall look into the essentials of excellent coaching.

An NLP coach can work in areas ranging from stress, anxiety, phobias and in diverse fields of work ranging from developing professional competency to combating violent aggression. Many people study NLP to help them become more effective in their chosen field. The patterns can be employed across a wide area of applications ranging from fields as diverse as education, team building, sales, marketing, personal development, leadership, and coaching. Wherever there are human interactions and growth potential, NLP can be used to develop and enhance performance.

Some of the approaches NLP Coaches use are:

Ask Powerful Questions- Ask in order to learn and enable your clients to make informed decisions and choices. Right questions open your perception and in turn change your MAP of the world. The end Result- Your Clients come up with the answers themselves.

Provide Positive Feedback- The goal is not to make your client defensive. Rather, it’s meant to be uplifting and concise. Through positive feedback, your neurology learns and relearns to make better choices

Strive to see Excellence- A good Coach has the ability to see the end result. In other words, he enables his clients to see what they can be instead of who they are.

Listen– A great coach has the ability to read and hear the fine print. This is an ability which is honed over a period of time and sometimes that is exactly what a client needs. A listening ear can hear what is not said. Cultivate a

Broad Perspective- Sometimes, solutions don’t appear magically. It takes a lot of work to achieve the desired outcome.

Total Investment- Be completely invested in your clients’ aspirations, goals or struggles. Have a powerful belief system in your client’s ability.

Pay Attention to Detail- It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen.

Be Obsessed- It’s an often repeated phrase, “saving the best for last”. To have a long term success as a Coach or in any position of leadership, you have to be obsessed in some way.” You have to be obsessed with turning an individual’s life around.



NLP Coaching is an avenue that has countless benefits, and it all hinges on the ability to partner with your client for their personal growth and transformation. Jerry West expresses it beautifully, “That’s a strong sign of a good coach, to let an assistant participate. It shows his confidence in the coach’s ability not to have to dominate everything.”



Sajid Ahamed is “Certified Trainer of NLP” and Founder of Inner Peace Life Coaching Pvt Ltd, India. He is a firm believer in high performance. He enjoys engaging in powerful conversations that lead to effective learning and results. He is ITA (International Training Academy) approved NLP and New Code Trainer in India and the Middle East. He organises NLP Training in Bangalore, Bahrain, Qatar, etc. Coach Sajid empowers his clients to achieve their greatest potential and evolve into their personal best version.

If you are interested to find out more of this Grinder Approved Training in India, you can book a free session with him using the below link.


Coaching – The Game Changer

Coaching – The Game Changer

Attaining excellence is not an option. It’s a necessity. It’s a ruthless never-ending struggle to reach the top. The intensity and all-consuming demands for perfection demand a reckless drive, an almost maniacal obsession to perfect one’s craft. And while it’s quite possible that an individual is equipped with all the necessary attributes to make it big in life, it doesn’t necessarily imply that there can be no further improvement. The danger of complacency is an ever-present reality that can suck an individual’s potential and can deaden the senses. And almost imperceptibly, the individual loses himself in that mechanical pursuit of tasks that have no real meaning. And all too often, the ability to make a switch seems like a gigantic proposition. What starts as a small trickle becomes a rushing waterfall, fierce and magnetic.

The vast majority of people are losing themselves in being busy, without being productive and accomplishing anything of real and lasting importance. That’s the real danger, and it surprisingly goes unnoticed. And that brings us to the essential question, “Why is achieving excellence important? The truth is, the road to victory is often strewn with roadblocks real or imagined, and most people would rather settle for comfortable. And a comfortable existence is a dangerous one, as it offers no real solace or lasting value. Inevitably, the demands of life can be a very heavy sentence and we all are aware of the term “burnout”, which is a direct result of lost time and failed dreams.

Coaching plays a huge role in directing an individual towards fulfillment and ultimately towards greater productivity. The results personally and professionally are unparalleled. I personally have been remarkably blessed with mentors who have played an invaluable role in helping me see reason. Yes, even that sometimes! But on a serious note,

Coaching requires an open perspective, a bird’s eye view of the individual’s psyche. Coaching mechanisms can’t be replicated as no two individuals are the same, with completely different personalities and interests. Also, it’s important to consider a very important principle. Coaching is not a road to fame or a “feel good factor”.

Why is Coaching a Game Changer?

Simply put, life doesn’t offer second chances and therefore it stands to reason, that an individual can’t live to see defeat multiple times. It can lead to depression, to say the least!! But let’s be honest here. The objective is to lead an exemplary life, a life that is rich with promise and potential, and we all need a mentor that can lead us there. Individuals who make it on their own are a rarity. Truth is, no one can make it alone, even the so-called self-made individuals. The catch here is, the right feedback at the right time conveyed in the right manner that miraculously works like a charm. Coaching is vastly different from other therapies, and it can be argued that it’s by far the best strategy for personal growth.

The reason is surprisingly simple “the personal touch”, that connectedness and shared bond that forms an almost tangible sense of self-belief and self-worth.

Sometimes feelings of self-worth are buried under years of abuse and neglect, almost eroding an individual’s sense of discovery and dreams. Coaching lays bare the essentials, with powerful questions that demand a deeper introspection. The path to growth is adventurous! It demands sheer grit and courage in the face of relentless opposition. The notion that coaching is a tool that can lead to reformed individuals is not an overnight phenomenon. There are no quick fixes, and there shouldn’t be either. They lead to shaky foundations that topple at the slightest push. Coaching mechanisms are a complex labyrinth of procedures that demand answers that last. The results are not instantaneous but when an individual exhibits courage and categorical decision-making skills that are undeniably the tools that we need in the real world, we realize that Coaching has been the game changer.

Millions of people all over the world are realizing the incredible benefits of coaching. Maybe it’s time, YOU connect to that too!!!!!!

Sajid Ahamed, is Grinder approved NLP Trainer in India and Middle East. He has been running NLP Practitioner Courses in India and Middle East. He has been coaching Clients for effective parenting skills and Enhancing Emotional intelligence. You can book a free session with him using the below link.