Relationship with Self

Relationship with Self

Relationship with Self

Relationship with self is the utmost important aspect of our life. You don’t really need  to depend on others in your life to make you feel happy and special. Studies have shown that no relationships, materialistic things can make you feel content in life. The only thing that you should yearn for is your relationship with yourself.

Relationship with Self

It won’t be wrong to say that your relationship with your own being is central to everything that happens in your life. The way you feel internally would also play an instrumental role in shaping your relationships with those around you. Trust me, you wont be able to fake a smile for long if you are internally in a state of turmoil, anxiety or depression. Thus your inner state of being would reflect how well things go out in your life.

At the end, we all crave to love and be loved in return. Doesn’t that give us a feeling of fulfillment? Acceptance of others make us feel worthy and lovable. Isn’t it? Not experiencing that emotional connection can actually lead to solitude and dejectedness in life. Thus, relationship with self should always remain the focal point. No matter what might happen around you, learning to connect with yourself is the baby step towards achieving true bliss and happiness in life. Depending on yourself is the best thing that you can do to yourself. People around you can change and they might disappoint you. Therefore, relying on others for your emotional stability is definitely not a desirable thing.

When you would abandon your own self, you would create a vacuum wherein you would start repelling those around you. Your lack of fulfillment inside would push people away and you might end feeling even more lonely and unloved. On the other hand, when you take responsibility for your own self, you open doors to embracing your weaknesses and negativities. Thus, this sense of deep inner fulfillment is what you should strive for.

One thing which we should remember is that we cannot fill others life with love and happiness if we are void inside. Believe me, you cannot connect with others till you are connected with your own inner being. Also, social isolation and loneliness are results of inner loneliness and connection with self. Also, your inner self is your sole partner in times of stress, anxiety and depression. Therefore, developing a relationship with your inner self should be your ultimate goal.

Relationship with Self

According to a renowned novel namely Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, people living in connected communities are healthier than those who live in isolated places. Hence, connection with self is important as it impacts your relationship with others. When we lose connect with our self and fail to feel the compassion, then we lose the ability to feel compassion for others. Someone has rightly said that when you make yourself a priority, you don’t fear people around you. At the end, what really matters is how much you love yourself. No one can make you feel unwanted until you want to feel that way.


  • Improved relationships with people you really value and love.
  • Increased self esteem and positive attitude towards life.
  • Becoming aware of your weaknesses and acceptance for them.
  • Rejuvenation and enthusiasm to face everything with a positive spirit.
  • Emotional stability and balance in relationships and life.
  • Appreciating and embracing what you have in life.
  • Making the lives of others more worthwhile and wholesome.

When you will be connected with your own self, you will be filled with feelings of gratitude and forgiveness. This would help you to de clutter your life and you will be able to embrace negativities and deal with them courageously.

Try this simple exercise if you are wanting to begin your journey towards self introspection.

Close your eyes and repeat: “I am a miracle.”
Say it again.
Smile even wider.
Say it again.
Open your eyes.

These four magical words “I am a miracle” are all you need to be able to keep you going throughout the day despite emotional roller coasters which you might face.

Ever wondered, what is the greatest hurdle you face in loving yourself? It is nothing else but acceptance of others. We depend so much on what others think about ourselves and tend to forget that we all are different and unique in our own ways. This becomes the major obstacle in our path to enlightenment and love for ourselves.

Hence, in a nutshell, there is no stopping your way if you choose the path of loving yourself infinitely. Govern your life the way you want to and create your own joys, love, and happiness without depending on others around you.  In order to feel alive and vibrant every single day, you simply need to remind yourself that everything around you is transitory and ephemeral. You would start putting yourself on a higher pedestal the day you would realize that nothing is more important than your feelings and emotions.

Inner Strength

Inner Strength

Inner Strength

“It doesn’t matter what we do until we accept ourselves. Once we accept ourselves, it doesn’t matter what we do.”

Many of us yearn for acceptance of those around us. Don’t we? Well, we all face those ultimate challenges in life where we desire to be loved and appreciated by one and all. We get affected to such an extent that we often forget that each of us is unique and special in his/her own ways. Does that happen with you too? At the end, the real beauty lies in embracing your own flaws and imperfections. Thus, we should live the life the way we want to and always craving for others acceptance isn’t desirable.

Inner Strength

The real trouble begins when we start relying on what people think of us. When we let people allow the central stage in our lives, we invite expectations, anxieties and even depression sometimes. When we allow others to control our lives, we unconsciously start getting influenced by their opinions and decisions. We then start to imitate their ways and fitting into their lifestyles become our sole aim. Hence, the vicious cycle begins and we start losing out on what we believe in.

An important question which you need to answer for yourself is that what are the unique qualities which make you shine from within? We are often skeptical about the decisions which we make in life and keep following the crowds around us. To err is human and thus we need to stop worrying about what others would think if we fail. Life is all about taking risks and we shouldn’t depend on others opinions for each and every decision we take in life. Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are. Hence, always do what you believe in as life is too short to live with regrets.

Living life according to your set of rules is the best thing you can do to yourself. You would never be compromising on what you always wanted to do and thus trusting yourself is the best practise.

You couldn’t relive your life, skipping the awful parts, without losing what made it worthwhile. We cannot always let others govern our lives and thus we shouldn’t always live with self doubts. When you start taking responsibility for every action without thinking of what others might think about your life choices, you achieve that state of pure bliss and happiness. Believe me, at the end what really matters is how comfortable and honest you are with your own self.

Depending on others can be destructive if you are low on self confidence and esteem. Life would be a beautiful journey if we start concentrating on what we want in life and not what others want us to do in life. Have you ever lived a single day where you didn’t pay heed to what others around you said? Well, I am sure you haven’t.

Self acceptance is ultimate key to success and true happiness. You cannot always be afraid of trying something new just because you are afraid of failures. We all strive to be perfectionists in everything we do but we need to understand that hardships and failures are part of our lives. Like a rainbow, life cannot just be filled with beautiful colors and therefore inner strength can play an integral role in helping you cope with difficult times in life. Inner strength of the soul is all you need to grow leaps and bounds in your life.

Someone has rightly said that beauty is not in the face but beauty is a light in the heart. Thus, inner strength and courage can shape your personality in many positive ways. You just need to consciously make an effort to stop trying to achieve perfect results for everything you desire to do. You live just once, thus live to the fullest. Simply understand the fact that you cannot impress everyone around you and you would be judged at every point in life. The elevator to happiness is therefore more about possessing the courage to take responsibility for the wrongful choices you make and not cribbing about the lost chances in life.

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Inner Strength


  • Focus on what really matters.
  • You are the best judge of your life.
  • Focus on doing what you think is best.
  • Don’t let destructive criticism overpower you.
  • Stay away from negative people.
  • Stay optimistic.
  • Encourage yourself to do what you believe in.

Hence in a nutshell, life is too short to live according to others expectations and opinions. Once you will learn to let go of toxic people and unnecessary opinions, you would realize that life is more than just mere shades of black and white. All you need to learn is stop getting affected to what others think of you. At the end what really matters is how much you love yourself. Embracing your own self is the only thing you need to focus on.

What is EQ?

What is EQ?

What is EQ? (a.k.a Emotional Quotient)

One of the simplest definition for Emotional intelligence is offered by Six Seconds, “Smarter about Feelings”. It is effectively blending thinking and feeling to make optimal decisions.
EQ is one of the key drivers of how people behave – and how people affect those around them.
I have been certified by Six Seconds as EQ Fellow, which allows me to administer the EQ assessment and debrief the assessment taker.

Six seconds has developed a complete assessment for EQ competencies and is called SEI YV.
The SEI-YV is a validated psychometric assessment for youth ages 7-18. The online or paper-based tool is used to measure current levels of competence in the Six Seconds Model of Emotional Intelligence – set in the context of important life outcomes (called Life Barometers), which include Good Health, Relationship Quality, Life Satisfaction, Personal Achievement, Self-Efficacy, and an overall composite..
The SEI-YV was developed by Anabel Jensen, Ph.D., and Carina Fiedeldey-Van Dijk, Ph.D. Dr. Jensen is the Founding President, and Dr. Fiedeldey-Van Dijk is the Senior Research Scientist of Six Seconds and President of ePsy Consultancy.

SEI-YV is divided into two sections, “EQ” and “Barometers” measures the Total EQ, Three pursuits of EQ – Self-awareness, Self-management, Self-direction and Eight competencies of the Six Seconds EQ Model along with five important drivers of success called Life Barometers.
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